People can easily get bored with a whinger – someone who bemoans the lot they’ve been ‘dealt’ in life and perhaps want to drag down those around them too. Constant complaining and self-pity serves no purpose, only to perpetuate the circumstances.

There are of course the instances where life throws a curve ball and it’s usually when we least expect it. Everything can be ticking along nicely and then bam! Something happens causing a massive jolt that rocks our world, only not in a good way. It could be redundancy, bereavement or a medical diagnosis – these are some of the circumstances that in my opinion, warrant a period of grace, a time when you need to retreat, take stock and over time, assess how you choose to carry on pulling on your inner strength, even though there may not feel like there’s much left, to continue on as the person you want to be.

As for those who don’t like their job, hate where they live, have friends that lend no support whatsoever and point out your negative points or maybe family who treat you badly – then do something about it. Don’t live with your anger and frustration day in and day out, make a change for the better. For often, until we make a consciously chosen positive change in our lives, those around us don’t know how to help or maybe have given up trying if we are not willing to first help ourselves. Chris Rock put it brilliantly.

We can all lie in bed at night and ruminate about how we’d like our lives to be, how we’d like to change things for the better… but are things in fact that bad if we can’t be bothered to take the first step to make the changes? Maybe the status quo sits better with us and we’re more emotionally comfortable with the present consequences than if we challenged our circumstances – had you ever thought of that?! For we need to be prepared for the changes – we need to have a self-image that believes we are worthy of a better life or else self-sabotage will bring us right back down to the unhappy disgruntled Victor Meldrew-type that we once were.

Don’t accept life as it is – challenge your comfort zone – it doesn’t have to be a daring change if at the moment, that’s not what you feel comfortable with but at least adopt a mindset whereby you are consciously thinking about the way you think about your challenges. See yourself as a person who is worthy of positive change. Surround yourself with loving and supportive family and friends rather than those who question your decisions and point out your mistakes – love yourself enough to tell them you’re worth more or walk away.

Personal development is a work in progress but you at least need to accept the project before anything positive can take place. Begin to help yourself and others will want to support the changes you make.

“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself”. Andy Warhol

By Kirsty Perrin

About the Author: Having been immersed in the Winning Edge principles from an early age, Kirsty’s philosophy is to be the best you can be and to enjoy what you do in life.

Kirsty knows that personal development is a continuous journey and therefore has a genuine desire and enthusiasm to help people realise their full potential, to be a success in their life-whatever that may mean to them.