Is this even a question you’ve given any thought to? It struck me this morning, as I went around to the passenger side door to climb across to the driver’s side because that door had inexplicably jammed, this was one of those silly things which had become my normal. Ridiculous but normal.
The door had jammed about a month ago. I’ve kept meaning to book the car into the garage but life takes over. Only it doesn’t just take over – I let it; clearly there are far too many things I would rather do than to make a simple phone call to fix a date to take the car in. Yet every day, it’s far easier for me to clamber across the passenger seat, to the driver’s side. Bonkers!
It’s a bit like my front door. We sanded it down in the summer then put the primer on and that’s how it’s been left for three months now. Every day, I walk in and out through that door, roll my eyes at our lack of organisation, motivation and the complete inertia which has set in.
These are petty little things which don’t have any impact on my quality of life, they’re just a bit irksome; possibly you’re reading this right now and it resonates with you… maybe you’ve a fence that needs fixing and next door’s dog will keep running into your garden until you’ve mended the fence; the scratch on your car which when you first did it, looked absolutely terrible but over time, it’s not that bad really is it… So, if you have these jobs which you’re putting off, what are you perhaps putting off which has a more significant impact in your life?
Maybe you’re in a less than harmonious relationship where you’re unable to hold a civil conversation. Long term, is this good for either of you? If you have children, is this good modelling for them? Does your job feel like you’re wading through treacle? Nothing ever changes, the management are staid and motivating the staff is not even on their radar. Yet day in day out, you turn up, go through the motions, turn around and go home again. Is this good for you? Unlikely. Yes, the bills need paying but if you continue in this vein, your mental wellbeing may well be affected.
Far too quickly, we can get used to a normal which doesn’t serve us well. 95% of our thinking is subconscious and 95% of what we do day to day is reactive habit so very often, we turn around and wonder how we got to where we are today. A bit like a routine car journey you take – sometimes you don’t remember passing half the familiar land marks.
So, how do we change this? It’s about taking control – being much more conscious of the nature of our thinking – the way we’re thinking about what we’re thinking about. Once we stop, take stock and become conscious of what our ‘normal’ is, we can then work out if this is adding to our life or is it day by day, having a negative effect. Over time, this negativity accumulates so don’t let it get to that point.
Through conscious thought, you can take control and make some significant changes resulting in a better quality of life. You don’t need to be radical – such as leaving your partner or walking out of your job – but work out what part you play in the situation and how you can rectify or improve things.
Until you stop and think about the way you think about things, you have no idea of the vast improvements you could be making to your life. If you don’t do it, trust me, no one else is going to come and do it for you. Be bold, be brave and most of all, get on with it!
“Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.” Robert Foster Bennett
By Kirsty Perrin
About the Author: Having been immersed in the Winning Edge principles from an early age, Kirsty’s philosophy is to be the best you can be and to enjoy what you do in life.
Kirsty knows that personal development is a continuous journey and therefore has a genuine desire and enthusiasm to help people realise their full potential, to be a success in their life-whatever that may mean to them.
Kirsty’s thought-provoking blogs, prompt readers to think consciously about how their thinking has a huge impact on their life, it informs their emotions and therefore their behaviour. Living life consciously is the cornerstone to the themes of Kirsty’s blogs. You can contact Kirsty directly here