Studies show that approximately 95% of our thinking is subconscious which means as we go about our everyday lives, our daily conscious thoughts are but a minor percentage. It’s frightening really. Frightening because most of what we do is through habit and most of that is reactive – another whopping statistic of 95%!
Think of it this way: when you drive a regular car journey, do you sometimes find yourself thinking “I didn’t realise I’d already passed the service station back there,” or when you need the loo in the middle of the night, you don’t really need the light on to find it because you know exactly where to go; getting dressed is another one – we don’t need to give it a thought. Yet, if we are right-handed and broke our right arm, we’d have to learn a whole lot of stuff in order to make our left-hand useful. If we visited China, suddenly we’d need to give a lot of thought to how we communicate – both verbal and non-verbal.
Knowing how to get to the loo in the dark is surely a good thing though, as is being able to get dressed without needing to give it any undue attention. However, there are multiple times throughout our day when we possibly don’t even consider our thoughts or the reaction we give… For example, we go through the motions getting ready for work and maybe children to school too. Every day it’s a rush, everyone frantically running around at the last minute, with tempers frayed. Recently, a work acquaintance told me her and her husband had a lightbulb moment and decided to leave for work 30 minutes earlier and eat breakfast at their desks. This meant they missed the peak rush hour traffic, barely any one was in the workplace that early and therefore, it wasn’t inappropriate to eat at their desks. It also gave them a chance to catch-up on emails. She said she couldn’t believe the difference this made and how it set up their day in a much more positive way. One small tweak to the usual routine had made quite an impact to their wellbeing – no rush hour traffic, emails read before everyone else arrived and a calm mood to begin the day.
The way we respond to people is also the same – maybe we expect an argument when the teenage daughter gets home from school, so our mood anticipates this. She senses the mood and responds accordingly and there it is, the self-fulfilling prophecy. Too often, during our day to day life, we very often go through the motions not really thinking about what we’re doing or where we’re going because most of it is routine.
I know eating breakfast at our workplace isn’t going to work for everyone and attempting an entente cordiale isn’t going to work for every family – but you get the sentiment – it’s about being more conscious about choosing your mood and the responses (not reactions!) that you give. It’s easy to let inertia set in and for life to become one long habit but does this serve you well…
It’s about living life consciously. Knowing that the things you are doing and saying are through your own choice because they sit most comfortably with your values. If you want a different outcome, it’s within your power to make that choice.
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” Mae West
By Kirsty Perrin
About the Author: Having been immersed in the Winning Edge principles from an early age, Kirsty’s philosophy is to be the best you can be and to enjoy what you do in life.
Kirsty knows that personal development is a continuous journey and therefore has a genuine desire and enthusiasm to help people realise their full potential, to be a success in their life-whatever that may mean to them.
Kirsty’s thought-provoking blogs, prompt readers to think consciously about how their thinking has a huge impact on their life, it informs their emotions and therefore their behaviour. Living life consciously is the cornerstone to the themes of Kirsty’s blogs. You can contact Kirsty directly here