January is the month when traditionally we look back at the good, the bad and the ugly from the previous year before we plan for the New Year. This January marks a decade since I immigrated to British Columbia in Canada, so my review is broader and more poignant than usual. The last ten years have been an incredible experience, with many highs, my fair share of lows and losses, plenty of challenge, surprise and uncertainty, probably too much navel-gazing if I am honest and tons of learning.
The Good: One of the best bits about my relocation has been the combination of work, play, volunteering and learning. When I lived in the UK, I never felt I found that Holy Grail of work-life “balance”. Over the years, I have learned to make choices that combine some of these areas of my life and consequently I feel I am becoming more of the person I want to be. Not surprisingly, I also feel I am gaining time. Given I have already spent over half of my 30K days on this planet, that is a bonus.
The Bad: When I relocated, I achieved my lifelong dream of a mountain lifestyle. After the honeymoon period, I started to coast and I got ‘comfortably uncomfortable’ with drifting along. Before too long I realised I had lost my sense of purpose so consequently my self-esteem nose-dived. It struck me that I had stopped dreaming big. There were no new, long-term goals. What I know about myself (and is true for many others) is that progress and growth make me happy. Goal achievement feels fantastic but it is a fleeting victory.
The Ugly: One of the biggest challenges I faced was a chronic health diagnosis at exactly the same time as the death of my dear old dad. These “neutral” events were the biggest test of my resilience, my mental focus and sense of humour. Mindset management had never been so important and the Winning Edge principles were pivotal in helping me maintain perspective, find the diamonds in the gravel and navigate the obstacles. I emerged stronger, emotionally and physically, with some newly defined values. Every cloud really does have a silver lining, if you know where to look.
A new year symbolises a new beginning. We have another opportunity to take control of the next 365 days. Like so many others, I will be setting myself some new challenges, refreshing some stale goals and creating some intentions to guide me as I take another lap around the sun. I know from experience, and The Winning Edge Programme, that a daily dose of self-discipline trumps willpower to make any lasting changes and keep me off ‘Someday Isle’. Given that that is a boring and unhealthy place to be, I am committed to cranking up my Mental Thermostat and grabbing the wheel to make 2019 memorable. How about you?
By Hazel Morley
About the Author: Hazel has worked as a Trainer, Facilitator and Coach for over 25 years, a number of which were spent as an Associate for Mancroft International. She believes in an inside-out approach to personal development and change and thrives on helping others who are ready to exercise their response-ability for being the best version of themselves. Her mantra is ‘always do what you think you might regret not doing’.
Hazel transformed her lifestyle in 2009, when she relocated to beautiful British Columbia, Canada. She gives credit to the Winning Edge principles for the nudge to move to the mountains. Since living in Canada, Hazel has expanded her portfolio of enabling others to achieve their career goals to include ways to create optimal health and live with vitality. She is fascinated by the power of the mind-body-lifestyle connection and the body’s innate ability to protect and heal us from disease.