There’s a Moorish Proverb that says: ‘He who fears something gives it power over him’ – turn this on its head and ask yourself – ‘If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you try?’
This is such a powerful mindset to be in and the opportunities that present themselves could be limitless… Often it is the fear of failure that holds us back from trying new experiences. For example, you may delay or put off going for that promotion or applying for a new job because you’re worried about a knock-back; maybe you’re putting off parenthood because you’re worried about the kind of parent you might be or the unpredictability of it all… It could be a new skill or hobby you’re thinking of learning but anxious you won’t be able to master.
So, what is behind this fear? Our imagination is a powerful choice driver which we employ, knowingly or not, when we make decisions and it can either hold us back or propel us forward. When approaching a new challenge or opportunity, 95% of people use their imagination to limit their growth – they imagine all the things which could go wrong, as opposed to imagining all that might go brilliantly…
Our self-belief is also a factor – too many people have self-limiting beliefs which hold them back. They have a, mainly misguided, belief in their lack of ability to be able to achieve a goal, solve an issue or to successfully face a challenge head on. It’s important to analyse where this self-limiting belief stems from. Is it from past experience, a comment someone else has made, or is it purely a manufactured belief which actually isn’t based on fact at all…
When you’re stopping yourself from going for something which could be quite wonderful, look at the reasons why. It’s important to have an awareness of the potential obstacles and to think about the risk-reward ratio but what is your dominant thought? Are you trying to avoid failure, or are you expecting success? Our brain is a very clever organ and is always trying to prove us right so if failure is the dominant thought – that’s what you’re programming your brain with. Expect success and your brain is busy looking for opportunities to prove you right.
Success vary rarely falls into our lap – work is required. Whether it’s to be happy, to having enriching relationships with our loved ones, to earn a million in a year, to afford a luxury cruise – riches in terms of personal development and of a financial nature all take thought, dedication and self-belief.
Ensure you know where your focus lies and GO FOR IT!
“In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” Abraham Maslow
By Kirsty Perrin
About the Author: Having been immersed in the Winning Edge principles from an early age, Kirsty’s philosophy is to be the best you can be and to enjoy what you do in life.
Kirsty knows that personal development is a continuous journey and therefore has a genuine desire and enthusiasm to help people realise their full potential, to be a success in their life-whatever that may mean to them.
Kirsty’s thought-provoking blogs, prompt readers to think consciously about how their thinking has a huge impact on their life, it informs their emotions and therefore their behaviour. Living life consciously is the cornerstone to the themes of Kirsty’s blogs. You can contact Kirsty directly here