How often do you hear yourself telling others that you’ve a terrible memory and that you’re no good at recalling names, dates or facts? As we go about our busy everyday lives, it is sometimes a challenge to retain all the information that comes our way, as well as trying to remember all the tasks that we need to do as the week progresses. There are birthdays for family and friends with cards and presents to buy, dates at your children’s schools to remember, meeting dates with various members of your team, project deadlines, time-sensitive phone calls to be made and so the list goes on…
However, if something is really important to us, isn’t it funny how we seem to be able to retain that information and remember it. For example, if you’re given an interview date for that new job that really excites you, you can bet your bottom dollar that you’ll remember that date and time; if you’re in the flush of a new romance, you no doubt remember that special person’s birthday because you want to make a fuss of them.
So why do we forget the others bits of information? Obviously there is an age-related factor regarding our memory but outside of this fact, people do not remember something simply because it just isn’t important enough to remember – harsh but true. If your friend’s birthday really mattered to you, you’d remember it; if remembering the names of your PA’s children was important, you would be able to recall those names easily during a conversation and if you really wanted to attend a friend’s tupperware party (?!) , that date wouldn’t slip your mind.
Many successful leaders and managers can enter a meeting room and recall the names of all the people around the table, be there five or fifteen of them, even if they have only just been introduced – because it matters to them; it helps to facilitate a productive meeting when individuals feel valued enough that you know who they are by name. You could go one step further and memorise one key fact about each of them such as where they live, their partner’s name or what their favourite hobby is – that would really blow their socks off if you mentioned it in a conversation!
If your values include accomplishment, motivation, thoughtfulness and to be genuine, then choose to adopt a mindset whereby you consciously make an effort to retain information that matters to both you and others.
“The true art of memory is the art of attention.” Samuel Johnson
By Kirsty Perrin
About the Author: Having been immersed in the Winning Edge principles from an early age, Kirsty’s philosophy is to be the best you can be and to enjoy what you do in life.
Kirsty knows that personal development is a continuous journey and therefore has a genuine desire and enthusiasm to help people realise their full potential, to be a success in their life-whatever that may mean to them.
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